Neither is better, they just sound different.
Why not determine what type of head you want and then try getting one of each for just one tom, say, your 12"? Try them one after the other and see which sound you like. This will give you a pretty good idea of what a full kit of them will sound like without spending a fortune.
And the "Remo coating wears prematurely" is a meme that is not true for all. Below is a one year-old coated ambassador batter, played daily and gigged often, by an
extremely hard hitter (my kid, who plays rock unmiked) using 747B oak sticks.
In 40 years of using coated Remo ambassadors, I have never once had premature coating wear. This tells me it's not the product, it's more likely the user.