Re: Am i desperate?
Agree with Harry about not being able to impose your vision on others. For drummers it's usually the other way around.
I've never played in a band whose music was as much to my taste as it was the singer's. More than anyone, the singer has to believe in the music. Not that I disliked the music, far from it, but it's never my ideal, which tends to be fairly off the wall.
I don't mind at all. As far as I'm concerned, drumming is fun no matter what the music, as long as the players are competent and the music has heart, style, dynamics and at least some intelligence.
That's bands ... they're almost always about compromise, like any relationship ... unless you're a singer, of course :)