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Old 11-19-2011, 04:11 AM
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Default Re: Having trouble asking a girl out in college

Originally Posted by eddiehimself View Post
Lucky you. Seriously though, I know exactly how the OP feels having been in that exact same position myself this time last year. It was my first few weeks at university, I was on my own and felt really isolated. I thought that I just HAD to find someone to make those weeks on my own more bearable. So there was someone in my course who just happened to play the guitar. After weeks of agonising over how I was going to woo her (I even thought of playing a song on the piano in one of the tutorial rooms lol) it eventually hit me; I didn't actually really like this girl at all. I only fancied her because I felt lonely and she just happened to be the most appealing girl in the class (out of about 5 or 6). I'm so glad I didn't go for it because I know I would have regretted it straight away. So make sure you've asked yourself if you really like this girl or it's just first weeks of college syndrome.
Semester's almost over, but that's definitely not the case here. If I actually can ask her, I kinda see this as a win on all possible levels.

1. Possible girlfriend
2. Possible friend (this one's kinda already started)
3. In the course of 2 years, I went from barely having talked to girls to asking one out. I call that progress
4. If she says no, than I know what I did wrong and will know what to do differently next time.
5. If she says no and comes back next semester (a lot of people do), than I can always try again if she's not taken.

Thing is though, I never thought about trying to come up with some big plan to woo her. Just thought I'd do it the easy way, just start talking, strike up a friendship, go out somewhere casual and see where it goes from there. So far it seems to be working out, just gotta do step 3!
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