Originally Posted by bobdadruma
First rule of both life and drumming is this,
"You Can't Go Home"
If you give up a gig then it is lost.
Going back never works anyway. I have gone back to a few bands because they asked me to come back.
I never stayed.
After I returned, I realized that I left for a reason the first time.
If your friend comes back he won't stay.
He will use it as a temp gig and he will leave again.
Tell him No in a nice way if you really want the gig.
x2 on that action. i have seen that same scenario many times.