Originally Posted by Sever Dismember Drummer
My drummer for the black metal band got a girlfriend and asked her everytime whether it was ok if he came to rehearsals (he's a 33 yr old man btw and his gf is 19).
The red flag popped up as soon as I read that. But you're not the problem. You said that there were no hard feelings between you and him - if he takes it personally, that's on him. You were right to do what you did!