Re: Your first gig experience.
DED - lol
That guy sounds like a master Svengali.
My first good band started out of the ruins of a group created by a Svengali of a similar ilk to your guy. There was a raw vocalist, a raw bassist and a guitarist friend of mine who was playing percussion with the group to put his conga lessons into practice.
They played one gig - a freebie (not even 50c :) outside a town hall. That was quite a first gig. The Svengali's guitar solos were so bad that the people standing next to me were laughing. The bandleader was the only one in the band without talent. Soon afterwards my guitarist friend had lead a revolt - the three of them left to form a band and he called me to play drums.