Re: Some unfortunate things as a Teenager... READ!
As a parent of two tennagers, we walk the tight line between doing parenting and being overbearing and controlling. Many times you know your kids are making bad decisions and you want to protect them from the pain and hurt they will cause. On the other hand you eventually have to let them go so they can learn from their mistakes.
Specific to this thread, your father sounds like a wacko, but then again we're only getting your side of the story. My daughter has a friend who's father is a controlling wacko, and limits his daughter on what she can and can't do, who she can hang out with, and where she can go. My daughter just got her license, but in order to drive her friend in the car, you actually have to fill out an application with the father to get approved to drive his kid around. It's insane.
Does your father hate music in general, or just your music? What was his upbringing? Did he have controlling parents? Is there any common ground you can make? If he likes a particular type of music, can you start listening to and playing his music? Do you do any activities with your father? Hobbies? Sports? Do you take an interest in the things he likes to do?
How does your mother fit into the situation? Is she against you playing drums? Can she help by interceding on your behalf?
Being defiant is not going to work. You're going to have to give before you take. I know that is a tough thing to comprehend when you are a teenager, because everything at that age is about you. Trust me, I know this based on my daughter's attitude.
Don't give up, because your only other option is to wait another three miserable years and then get out of Dodge.
Or you could just call Dyfus on your dad and get him hauled off to jail. ;)
"Through many dangers, toils and snares..." - Amazing Grace, third verse