Re: Disappointment in bassists :/
I know I've said this in other threads, but I just assume the leader spot, and pay guys I want to have play with me. So if I get a gig, I'm the leader and call who I want. I threw a nice party for friends once and hired my own band - it's worth it. Then I don't have to rehearse 'em or anything, I hire them in to play. It's quick and its easy. No one argues with me because I'm paying 'em.
I know many of us are not in the position to hire people, but it's really hard to get people to commit to your project if there's nothing in it for them. You'll just have to keep plugging away trying to find compatible talents and desire to do what you guys are into. Those people are out there, you just have to find them. Good luck!