Re: I can't take it anymore! Wife smokes, I don't. Tips are welcome!
a/ Ask her if she'd mind you borrowing her non smoking sister for the intimate element of your relationship.
b/ Restrict yourself to the non smoking bits during intimate encounters.
c/ Buy a single seat sports car.
d/ Cut a deal with her. You can spend as much on drum stuff as she does on smoking (that should add up to at least one full high end kit / year).
e/ Work on your hand & wrist technique (purely a drumming ref:)