Re: Band wives and female patrons
I'd ask that she not come to shows unless she can put her jealous insecurities behind her and put faith in her husband's ability to keep things from progressing past a "harmless" level. I would agree that her presence puts the bands good name at risk. Not only with fans, but establishments who would frown upon a band who brings potential violence with them.
And c'mon, is the allure of the musician not part of the performance?