Re: Tactful corrections of band members
i agree with p-fog, we had a similar problem with our bassist a while back. not that he played to busily but he wouldn't learn what we needed him to. we tried subtle hints here and there and tried showing him little tips and tricks but each time he got defensive and thought we wanted him gone and so forth.
being he is best friends with the guitarist since they were kids, i asked him to approach it and just flat out tell him, you need to do this and that and do it quickly and explain to him we're not pushing him out but he's holding up progress and if he needs us to help cool but the change needs to be made.
couple weeks later he was starting to fall in line right where we needed him.