Originally Posted by diosdude
Dude, are you sure you kicked him out? 'Cause it sounds like you're giving him another shot next week.
It should go something like this:
Hey man, to be perfectly blunt and not beat around the bush, you're just not working out with us. We have a very good idea of what we should sound like and you're just not where we need you to be, musically.
And he would ask, "wha...what??? What-do-ya-mean?????"
And then you need to be brutally honest:
"Dude, we think you SUCK!!!!!" Now, quit wasting our time, if you wanna hang out, help us carry our gear to gigs and maybe do beer runs for us during practice that's cool but you can't hold a note in a bucket and you certainly can't carry our band anymore"
That's just an example of how it's done so that there's no question of your intent. Probably how i would handle the sitch.
Honestly, diosdude, If I were gonna kick someone out of a band, I WOULDN'T do it this way...especially face-to-face. NO WAY, Jose'! Not the way I would handle the "sitch". There's always a way to be civil about it, and this way would never work. Though, I DO agree that you have to be honest about it. Just NOT this cruel.
But with your most recent post above, I absolutely agree with you 100%! No doubt about it.