Re: Point of View - Behavior of Band Members at Gig
I think it would appear unprofessional as a punter. I mean, if you are trying to appear as a tight band, then it's not what I'd think should happen.
It sounds like it would fit more in with a jam night, not a paid pub gig.
that in mind, my band occasionally gets people up for a song or two, but it is planned weeks in advance, songs worked out and every one expects it.
all the best with handling this situation. The age isn't a problem but what I think you may need to sort out is finding people who are on the same page with you with regards to this issue.