Re: Martial arts (could use your thoughts)
I took Tae Kwon Do for 5 years and it definately helped me with a lot of things...physical fitness, conditioniing, attitude, self esteme, etc. While a lot of my peers were couch potatoes and getting fat, I was out running, weight lifiting, going to martial arts classes, etc. Now years later I still am feeling the benefits of that intense program. I had wonderful instructors who generally cared about their students' well-being. And when I became an assistant instructor, I tried to emulate thier fine qualities.
I echo what was said here. Go to the nearest legitimate dojos or dojangs and ask the instructors and inquire about your specific situation. I bet you find friendly people who generally care.
My own experience is I met some wonderfully warm and friendly people who turned into my band of brothers. Now years later I still keep in touch with some of them. Good luck!
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