Re: How do you find a band?
three words-- trial and error
finding the right band can be one of the most frustrating things for some people. Endless false starts, egos, people who talk the talk but don't walk the walk, bad rehearsal habits, not showing up on time, you name it.
I don't think there's an easy answer to your question. I've never been a session guy and never had that as a goal so I'm not an authority on that but I would guess the good thing about that is that you do the gig and move on to your next job.
If you're talking about a steady band, which is what I wanted, well, now you're dealing with people that you will be with on a regular basis. Like any relationship that is fraught with the potential for issues and all kinds of crap. Finding musicians who can actually play, are serious about doing the band thing and don't have massive egos is quite the undertaking.
Everybody seems great at first until you start to see the bad habits that will annoy the hell out of you and maybe others.
Sorry I'm not painting a rosy picture but unless you get very lucky finding the right band/musicians the process is going to test your resolve. However, when you do and things click, there's nothing like it. Good luck