Re: best way to drop a band memeber?
There are several different ways of going about it, depending on his level of maturity and professionalism. I've kicked people out of bands and I've been kicked out of a couple myself. In all cases, I was professional about it so I expected the same from them.
The last group I was involved with decided to keep their old drummer because he better fit their style, which I completely understood. Me and one of the guys in the band went out for a drink one night and he casually explained the situation to me and that was that. If I was upset, it was because I now was back on my own again, which was a bitter-sweet thing.
If you think this guy is going to be really upset and fly off the handle, confront him as a group so that you're not shouldering all of it yourself.