Re: best way to drop a band memeber?
Call him on the phone before he lugs his gear over to practice or go visit him and tell him in person. Do not wait for him to come over and embarrass him in front of the group. If he has gear at the rehersal spot, let him come for it when he is ready and not while the rest of the band is there to gawk.
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