Re: Both Bands doing Pretty Well now.
Hang in there Mike.
Band number two sounds like it's a good thing for you on a couple of levels. Band mates who practice intelligently and do their homework is rewarding for all involved.You know, "iron sharpens iron".You're also getting experience with dynamics and perhaps this will eventually rub off on them as well .
As for band number one, stick with it for now . That is the band that has gigs lined up.
You're preparing and practicing smart and it will show. If they don't grow at least you can have yourself in a position of networking with other musicians and can move on, if need be.
It looks like you have yourself in a pretty good position. You'll find yourself in the band (or bands) you want.