Re: Musician abuse?
I play in my school's Big Band, and sometimes I'll break out with really fast low-tom 16th note fills during something like Sam's Boogie and that always makes the band leader look at me and kinda roll his eyes and shrug it off; but I do this only during practices. I always do what he tells me during gigs, and that's what you should do too; you're not a solo drummer, nor are you a drummer in a rock band. Different situations require different playing.
Although everyone above me has said that already ;p
My favorite bands: Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Jimi Hendrix Experience, Red Hot Chili Peppers