Re: breaking someone elses gear, feel like a heel
I broke the bass drum head on a kit I used to rehearse on at a church. I felt particularly bad, as I wasn't even a member of the church! All my bandmates were members, and we had permission to use the kit and PA. I knew I hadn't done anything wrong, but still...
I replaced the batter head, tuned up and cleaned the whole kit, and everyone was happy.
The only other time I broke a bass drum head was when I broke the beater off and the shaft went through the head, but luckily both the pedal and drum were mine.