Re: hello drumwallahs
Find out what you want out of music, now and longer term. Just goof around? Develop enough skill to find other people and perform?
Get the best gear you can afford but don't stress about it too much. Round shells, stands and pedals that don't wobble, even low end cymbals are good to start.
FInd a genre or band you would like to play and use that to inspire you with things you want to learn.
Find a teacher who understands what you want to accomplish and who can guide you there.
SOmeone will always sound better, have better gear and better skill. Don't compare yourself to others. If you suspect you should be happy, then you should be.