Re: All the gear no idea!
Welcome to the forums.
As you probably already know, drums tend to be on the noisy side. Set a time of day for practice that will impact the fewest people. Talk to your neighbors and explain that you are a beginning student but that you are serious about learning the instrument. Late morning and early afternoon works best for me.
Try to be consistent with your practice schedule. It's better to practice one hour a day for five days than to practice for five hours one day a week.
Invest in a metronome. The Tama Rhythm Watch looks to be pretty good. I have an Alesis SR-16 drum machine, but if I was to do it over again I would probably opt for the Rhythm Watch. A good set of headphones would be a good investment, too.
Practice your lessons at a painfully slow tempo. Work on your accuracy and precision.
That's all I got.
I started with nothing and still have most of it left.