Originally Posted by Anon La Ply
Speaking as a sinful heathen, I disagree with you, young Watsisface.
Firstly, "be grateful you are alive" - if we're not undergoing those brutal periods life can serve up we should all be grateful, given that we spent 13.8 billion years not being alive and the lights have briefly been turned on for you before "lights out time" returns in a cosmic blink of an eye. The main beneficiary of any gratitude you feel is yourself so counting your blessings strikes me as a good idea.
Secondly, if someone is in horrible pain or reduced to an undignified shadow of themselves, then any place - including nowhere at all - has to be better.
Next question ... :)
I've never been in that situation thankfully, but if I were terminally ill, or really depressed, the last thing I would want to hear is one of those empty statements for the hundredth time. It's almost reflexive, not really a thought or original sentiment. I can say for sure I hate being "consoled" with the old "they're in a better place now", after someone close to me passes.
But then, I'm a crotchety bastard.