Re: Random Thoughts
I've thought about this and you have to put some memories in their place - like old age degradations of your parents. That's not who they were in essence. It's just a bummer that happened to them. Old age messiness is minor in the greater scheme of things, compared with their ideas, life lessons, jokes, talents, blundering etc back before the mechanical process of ageing set in.
Put those memories aside and use the anniversaries as an opportunity to remember the good times and make sense of the tensions. I appreciate my parents more now that they're gone. Hindsight, eh?