Jasp, I'll agree with you on this - I think it's goofy when a YT vid is posted "girl drummer" too. Still, as they say, sex sells ... and that's not the fault of women!
I've satirised the FEMALE DRUMMER game a couple of times - I got called on it the second time when the satire was less obvious :)
Fetchingly aged FEMALE DRUMMER!!! - Soundscape
FEMALE drummer!! A Mosquito at Night