Re: New band problems...
Yeah, it sounds to me like you need to discuss this with the other members of the band, and tell them how you feel. Most likely, they feel the same way you do, but don't want to say anything. Unless of course, it's just for fun - in which case, who cares? But if you guys are hoping to get serious, then you have a lot of problems.
I will also say, that I am blessed when it comes to my wife. She always help me with my equipment, never has a problem with me needing to be with the band. My band mates actually wrote a 'thank' segment for the inside of the record we just finished to her for being such a good sport about them 'taking me away' so randomly.