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The Gedge 11-19-2011 10:34 PM

I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
I'm 16 and in secondary school (British high school).
This girl asked me to go with her to the year 11 prom because her boyfriend's in a different year and therefore can't go. I agreed to go with her (pinkie swear, or something like that); we'll call her A.
However, a few days afterwards I realised there's someone else I'd prefer to go with (I fancy her basically); we'll call her B
I figured that I should ask out B, and if that goes well, reject A.
Any other suggestions? The prom's early next year so I have at least a couple of months to figure this out.
Do you have any advice for carrying this out as well?

bobdadruma 11-19-2011 10:44 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Sounds like a good plan to me! Ask "B" and if she says yes then lose "A"
"A" will find another make believe prom date.

eddiehimself 11-20-2011 12:34 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Lucky you. I missed out on my year 11 prom because I couldn't find anyone to go with. If you like someone better then better going with them rather than just someone else for a sympathy date.

Skulmoski 11-20-2011 04:23 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
You already said yes to A. Seems pretty simple to me unless you lack integrity.

GJS

GRUNTERSDAD 11-20-2011 05:17 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
You asked A, you go with A. You are young and by that time C, D, and E will come along. But if you have any integrity you must go with A.

PQleyR 11-20-2011 05:55 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
If I were you, I'd go with A. If I were me, I wouldn't go at all!

larryace 11-20-2011 06:02 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
You were her 2nd pick too. Follow your heart, all's fair in love and war.
You're 16, you have plenty of time for integrity. Maybe you could get a sub?
If you do pick B, own it. Be honest.
What if you stick to the original plan and B meets a guy and they become steady? You will have missed the boat being noble. F that.

To A:
I know that we had a pinky swear date, but you don't like me for dating, you just want someone to accompany you to the prom, which is cool. But now I have a problem, there's someone who wants to actually date me, and hinted about the prom. (white lie) Can you let me off the hook so I can go after her? I really like her.

Put it on her.

The Gedge 11-20-2011 06:11 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
I never asked A; she asked me. I said yes because I didn't expect anyone else to bug me about it.
I no longer care for my integrity, so I don't see the point of honouring the promise to A.
I barely know or care for A anyway; she's fairly popular so she could find somebody else.
B is just a far better choice for me; she can tell Austria from Australia.

I'll ask B, then lose A if that goes well.
Sorry to bother you guys with my unexpected love life!

PQleyR 11-20-2011 06:23 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Actually...thinking about it, I would do what I thought was right, which could be either one depending on the circumstances which you know better than any of us. Your plan sounds eminently reasonable to me.

Doctor Dirt 11-20-2011 06:36 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Explain that your doing the young lady a big favor and you'd like them both to accompany you! Ofcourse to be fare they should handle half the expenses each, right??? Then you have all night to figure out how it will end. Be agressive yet reserved why be conventional when your so young, live it up your only young twice.
Once when you ARE young and again somewhere around 58 or so, thats a tuff one and the one when YOU need the money. Think about it I'm sure you'll make the right choices. Doc

The Gedge 11-20-2011 06:42 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Doctor Dirt (Post 916499)
Explain that your doing the young lady a big favor and you'd like them both to accompany you!

If I could make that work I wouldn't be asking this question :)

Ian Williams 11-20-2011 07:26 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
You and the lassies are the only ones to know and decide...fantasy or reality?
In terms of drumming: straight singles and doubles or triplets!!!

GRUNTERSDAD 11-20-2011 09:16 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
I guess since you aren't worried about your integrity or reputation the only fair thing would be that you back out of the Date with A and when you ask B she tells you No. Wouldn't that be lovely.
Sounds like you have a career in politics all lined up.

kettles 11-20-2011 09:36 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
If I were A's boyfriend I would be pissed at A for going with some other guy.

I would ask B and drop A. Plus you're more likely to get lucky with B.

:)

zambizzi 11-20-2011 10:07 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
..or...be a total badass and take them both. Your rep will last the rest of your school days. ;)

zambizzi 11-20-2011 10:07 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by The Gedge (Post 916501)
If I could make that work I wouldn't be asking this question :)

Aww...Doc beat me to it.

keep it simple 11-20-2011 10:58 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Tell A you're a drummer. That should just about screw everything up for you :)

The Gedge 11-20-2011 11:36 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by keep it simple (Post 916573)
Tell A you're a drummer. That should just about screw everything up for you :)

I don't think that will cut it; telling her I'm a brony drummer might work (if you don't know what a brony is, look it up).

Pocket-full-of-gold 11-21-2011 08:32 AM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kettles (Post 916546)
Plus you're more likely to get lucky with B.

LOL!! That was my very first thought when I read the OP.

Yep, if it were me and I was 16 again.......I'd go with the one who was the easiest to get into bed. ;-)

The Gedge 11-21-2011 02:22 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Rejected by B and integrity destroyed; luckily A doesn't know.
Still glad I tried it :)

Skulmoski 11-21-2011 04:05 PM

Re: I'm in a situation I never thought I'd find myself in... ever
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by The Gedge (Post 916793)
Rejected by B and integrity destroyed; luckily A doesn't know.
Still glad I tried it :)

Yes, but you know and have to live with yourself.

GJS


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