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kristen 01-12-2009 10:24 PM

Feeling blue
 
So, I just told my boss that I was moving to NY and she started crying.... now I'm sad... I can't stop thinking about it... : (

Baddstuff 01-12-2009 10:47 PM

Re: Feeling blue
 
the good news is that with time sadness usually passes. It may not be completely forgotten but it shoudn't be as strong as it initially is. If moving to New York will make you happy then you have to do what you have to do. Just make sure it's what you really want. Good luck

TheGroceryman 01-12-2009 11:23 PM

Re: Feeling blue
 
pffft, you shouldnt be sad at all, NY is AMAZING. I was in atlanta for winter break and i got really fed up by it, the atmosphere is just not for me.

That Guy 01-12-2009 11:28 PM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Why are you moving to NY?

kristen 01-13-2009 12:08 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
It is something I want really bad, it just sucks that I have to hurt people in order to get there. I know its not a good reason not to go though. Why are we moving?... Well we just got back from visiting, and I absolutely fell in love with the city! I loved everything about it.. the people, the food, the crowds, the small spaces, even the smelly subway stations. It probably won't be forever, maybe 2-3 years. I just feel like if I don't do it now, I'm going to look back at my life and regret it. I love my life here, and I love my job.. I just feel like there is something more... plus it will be amazing for my career to be able to be a hairstylist in NYC! I probably won't be able to take my drums though, so that sucks.

That Guy 01-13-2009 12:12 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Cool, I hope everything works out for you. I have never been to NYC but I would really like to visit someday.

zambizzi 01-13-2009 12:20 AM

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You must have been a valuable asset to the company you're leaving, so look at the bright side! It's nice to be loved.

I came so close to doing the same thing more than once - so congrats to you! You'll love it, it's a world in-and-of-itself. I dunno though - I'd have a very hard time leaving my drums behind. I don't think I'd live anywhere now where I couldn't play at least a little, everyday.

drumhead61 01-13-2009 12:25 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
NYC is an amazing city...I too love it and wish I could go there again. I will always remember the time I visited there. Good luck to you...hope it all works out!

That Guy 01-13-2009 12:28 AM

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I wanna visit Ray's Pizza! I always here so much about it. The ham, the pineapple and the ricotta cheese..... forget about it. I'm hungry now.:-)

zambizzi 01-13-2009 12:34 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by That Guy (Post 527047)
I wanna visit Ray's Pizza! I always here so much about it. The ham, the pineapple and the ricotta cheese..... forget about it. I'm hungry now.:-)

You said it wrong...it's "fuggeddaboudiiiiiit!"

drummer girl09 01-13-2009 12:34 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527034)
It is something I want really bad, it just sucks that I have to hurt people in order to get there. I know its not a good reason not to go though. Why are we moving?... Well we just got back from visiting, and I absolutely fell in love with the city! I loved everything about it.. the people, the food, the crowds, the small spaces, even the smelly subway stations. It probably won't be forever, maybe 2-3 years. I just feel like if I don't do it now, I'm going to look back at my life and regret it. I love my life here, and I love my job.. I just feel like there is something more... plus it will be amazing for my career to be able to be a hairstylist in NYC! I probably won't be able to take my drums though, so that sucks.

Just get a really tiny kit, and muffle them really good for your apartment or what ever you are living in! Then you are good to go! That is what I would do at least. No fancy drum set, just enough to get the craving out.

That Guy 01-13-2009 12:36 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by zambizzi (Post 527054)
You said it wrong...it's "fuggeddaboudiiiiiit!"

Ya, thats it! I couldn't figure out how to type it. Thanks buddy, I will always remember it.

kristen 01-13-2009 01:03 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Hey, we went to Rays Pizza while we were there! It was sooo good! Yeah, I will have to figure something out with my drums, I need to have something to play on. Thanks everyone! I think I will feel better tomorrow, its just one of those things. I have been at that salon for six years, so its kinda bittersweet. I am excited though! I know its going to be hard, but I think it will be worth it. What do other people that live in apartments do about their sets? I just don''t think there will be much room with two other people and two dogs.

kristen 01-13-2009 01:19 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by TheGroceryman (Post 527006)
pffft, you shouldnt be sad at all, NY is AMAZING. I was in atlanta for winter break and i got really fed up by it, the atmosphere is just not for me.

I forgot to ask what "pffft" means?

That Guy 01-13-2009 01:35 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527100)
I forgot to ask what "pffft" means?

Quote from the Urban Dictionary (urbandictonary.com)

Pfft:

1. An expression of a lack of interest in another persons comment

2. Used to look down upon another

3. Fine, whatever, i dont care

4. An expression of dismissal of another's comment.

5. The sound of a silent and deadly rectal emission. <----- My favorite :-)

6. A noise you make when you are bored with something someone is saying

7. A forced exhalation of air which produces the noise pfft
done when you disagree with someone.

8. An expression of disgust, disdain or disapproval, usually uttered after someone has just told you something totally inane or uninteresting.

kristen 01-13-2009 01:40 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Ha Ha! Thanks That Guy!

jay norem 01-13-2009 01:54 AM

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Where are you looking to live in NY? I've been looking at places in Queens. I know a few musicians who live in Astoria and Jackson Heights. The prices aren't bad at all, and it's an easy ride into Manahattan. Well, relatively easy, considering.

TheGroceryman 01-13-2009 02:51 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by That Guy (Post 527107)
Quote from the Urban Dictionary (urbandictonary.com)

Pfft:

1. An expression of a lack of interest in another persons comment

2. Used to look down upon another

3. Fine, whatever, i dont care

4. An expression of dismissal of another's comment.

5. The sound of a silent and deadly rectal emission. <----- My favorite :-)

6. A noise you make when you are bored with something someone is saying

7. A forced exhalation of air which produces the noise pfft
done when you disagree with someone.

8. An expression of disgust, disdain or disapproval, usually uttered after someone has just told you something totally inane or uninteresting.

well i didnt really mean it in a put-off kind of fashion, it was more of an expression of satirical confusion about your being sad by having to go to NYC, if that makes any sense. Cause, like i said, NYC is AMAZING! i had this italian place right next to our "peregrine" (house) we called it, it was called salvatores. Incredible, easily the best italian food i've ever had, ever. but then it went outta business, a sad day that was indeed.

ah, the memories of me stuffing my face in some nice ziti pizza

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 02:55 AM

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I live in Astoria and I can vouch for it being a nice area and still fairly reasonable price-wise. Manhattan is nice too if your money talks loud.

jay norem 01-13-2009 02:59 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Baddstuff (Post 527152)
I live in Astoria and I can vouch for it being a nice area and still fairly reasonable price-wise. Manhattan is nice too if your money talks loud.

Yeah, Manhattan's great, but you've got to have some loud money baby!
When I went to music school there I had a studio apartment on the lower east side. The rent was $150 a month. This was in the late seventies. Today? Forget it.

That Guy 01-13-2009 02:59 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by TheGroceryman (Post 527148)
ah, the memories of me stuffing my face in some nice ziti pizza

Ziti pizza? That sounds really interesting.

jay norem 01-13-2009 03:01 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by That Guy (Post 527154)
Ziti pizza? That sounds really interesting.

Ziti is a kind of pasta. I can't imagine that on a pizza.

That Guy 01-13-2009 03:04 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by jay norem (Post 527155)
Ziti is a kind of pasta. I can't imagine that on a pizza.

That was my thought exactly Jay! Ziti? Pizza? We learn something new everyday.

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 03:19 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by jay norem (Post 527153)
Yeah, Manhattan's great, but you've got to have some loud money baby!
When I went to music school there I had a studio apartment on the lower east side. The rent was $150 a month. This was in the late seventies. Today? Forget it.

yeah, nowadays $150 won't even pay for the key. I'm born and raised in Manhattan but I live in Queens because the rents in Manhattan are ridiculous. Besides, I can get to midtown Manhattan in 20 minutes via subway. Not bad.

That Guy 01-13-2009 03:24 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Baddstuff (Post 527175)
yeah, nowadays $150 won't even pay for the key. I'm born and raised in Manhattan but I live in Queens because the rents in Manhattan are ridiculous. Besides, I can get to midtown Manhattan in 20 minutes via subway. Not bad.

I heard that many people who live in the city don't own cars. They can't afford it and they dont' need it. That sounds like my type of town.

kristen 01-13-2009 03:27 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Question... We were thinking Brooklyn, but would Queens be better? I plan on commuting into the city (hopefully). Lets just say I've never even heard my money make a peep...

That Guy 01-13-2009 03:28 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527181)
Question... We were thinking Brooklyn, but would Queens be better? I plan on commuting into the city (hopefully). Lets just say I've never even heard my money make a peep...


Everytime I hear of someone speak of Queens I think of the movie Comming To America.

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 03:29 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by That Guy (Post 527179)
I heard that many people who live in the city don't own cars. They can't afford it and they dont' need it. That sounds like my type of town.

actually, there too many cars in Manhattan. I don't know if all those people who own them actually live there but man, way too many cars. I have never owned a car and don't care to. Mass transit can be a pain sometimes but it beats driving. Unless you have your own garage parking is always an issue. And the city loves to give tickets or tow, it's a thriving business. New York can be a blast but it's not for everyone.

That Guy 01-13-2009 03:31 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Baddstuff (Post 527184)
actually, there too many cars in Manhattan. I don't know if all those people who own them actually live there but man, way too many cars. I have never owned a car and don't care to. Mass transit can be a pain sometimes but it beats driving. Unless you have your own garage parking is always an issue. And the city loves to give tickets or tow, it's a thriving business. New York can be a blast but it's not for everyone.


Yes, thats what I have heard. I would really like to visit it someday. I hear so many wonderful stories.

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 03:32 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527181)
Question... We were thinking Brooklyn, but would Queens be better? I plan on commuting into the city (hopefully). Lets just say I've never even heard my money make a peep...

Brooklyn can be nice in the right area. There's a commercial running on TV these days for apartments in the Flatbush section, I think 2 bedrooms go for about $1300.
Actually, here's the link- http://www.flatbushgardens.net/

I happen to like Queens a lot but I've never lived in Brooklyn so I can't compare.

kristen 01-13-2009 03:33 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by TheGroceryman (Post 527148)
well i didnt really mean it in a put-off kind of fashion, it was more of an expression of satirical confusion about your being sad by having to go to NYC, if that makes any sense. Cause, like i said, NYC is AMAZING! i had this italian place right next to our "peregrine" (house) we called it, it was called salvatores. Incredible, easily the best italian food i've ever had, ever. but then it went outta business, a sad day that was indeed.

ah, the memories of me stuffing my face in some nice ziti pizza

Thats ok Groceryman, I didn't think you meant it like that. I'm not sad about moving there... I'm actually so happy that I find it hard to sleep at night. I was just sad that I made someone cry. By the way, I am hoping a nice italian family will adopt me when we get up there... mmm... homemade italian food : )

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 03:35 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by That Guy (Post 527188)
Yes, thats what I have heard. I would really like to visit it someday. I hear so many wonderful stories.

if you want to catch some of the best musicians in the world then Manhattan is the place.
I just saw Dennis Chambers at a small club and was about 10 feet from him and next month I plan to catch Mr. Gadd at the same place. Now THAT'S sweet!

kristen 01-13-2009 03:36 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Baddstuff (Post 527189)
Brooklyn can be nice in the right area. There's a commercial running on TV these days for apartments in the Flatbush section, I think 2 bedrooms go for about $1300.
Actually, here's the link- http://www.flatbushgardens.net/

I happen to like Queens a lot but I've never lived in Brooklyn so I can't compare.

Thanks Baddstuff! 2 bedrooms is exactly what we need. Good price too!

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 03:39 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
just do some research before making the move. get a New York subway map online so you can see the layout and how far places are from Manhattan.

jay norem 01-13-2009 03:45 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527181)
Question... We were thinking Brooklyn, but would Queens be better? I plan on commuting into the city (hopefully). Lets just say I've never even heard my money make a peep...

Brooklyn is almost the new Manhattan. And depending on where you live there, it can be a huge endeavor to get into the city. I'd say that your prospects are much better in Queens.
Now Brooklyn's great, I like it, but I'd have to go with Queens.

kristen 01-13-2009 03:47 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Ok thanks! We actually still have our subway map from when we were there. One more question... Do people have dogs there? We have two, and can't imagine not taking them. I actually just emailed that apartment place you gave me to see if they allow dogs. Am I getting my hopes up though?

kristen 01-13-2009 03:49 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by jay norem (Post 527203)
Brooklyn is almost the new Manhattan. And depending on where you live there, it can be a huge endeavor to get into the city. I'd say that your prospects are much better in Queens.
Now Brooklyn's great, I like it, but I'd have to go with Queens.

Thanks Jay, thats good to know! I'm learning so much! Definetly makes this process easier. Thanks!

Baddstuff 01-13-2009 03:56 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527207)
Ok thanks! We actually still have our subway map from when we were there. One more question... Do people have dogs there? We have two, and can't imagine not taking them. I actually just emailed that apartment place you gave me to see if they allow dogs. Am I getting my hopes up though?

some buildings allow them, some don't. you need to inquire

aydee 01-13-2009 05:37 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by kristen (Post 527181)
Question... We were thinking Brooklyn, but would Queens be better? I plan on commuting into the city (hopefully). Lets just say I've never even heard my money make a peep...

Brooklyn's more expensive than Queens.

General rule of thumb.. the further away you are from Manhattan, the cheaper the rent. E.g Brooklyn Heights, or Astoria are just across

the East river and therefore almost as expensive as Manhattan

Good news- the longest possible commute ( subway/trains ) from most neighborhoods in both Brooklyn & Queens is about 40 minutes to mid-town Manhattan.

Dont rule out New Jersey ( Jersey City, Union City ) which are equally easy commutes. If you have dogs, these might be your best bet.

Lots of dogs in NYC but its a lot more work.

Everything you hear about NYC is true.. except the stuff about New Yorkers.

There's no place in the world like it. Its the greatest city in the world. Stop feeling blue. Make the move.

Good luck.

Derek 01-13-2009 05:49 AM

Re: Feeling blue
 
Sounds to me like you're moving for all of the right reasons. Don't let anyone make you feel blue about it.
Enjoy this time of your life.


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