Yeah, that sounds seriously destructive.She does indeed, and not for the first time.
FOF Duncan's post below, one of my transgender friends (who hasn't completed transition yet) had an experience the other day which upset her considerably. She was having a drink with a friend, when a complete stranger came up to her and declared "I had no idea you were a man until I heard you speak."
That is ignorance and bad manners combined, in my view.
I didn't realize that all of the trans people that I associate with were such fragile cowards, and that by not immediately divining their imaginary gender identity I was somehow causing them grave injury. I'd love to hear more about how weak they are.
Alternatively, we could use more realistic terms to describe our interactions and feelings, so that we don't look ridiculous. I have a funny feeling that porter, while correct in spirit, is young or ESL and has not fully grasped the dynamics of the language, or was simply being overly dramatic.
Sorry if I attacked anyone in a seriously destructive manner ;-)