Polly I'm with you. The music sounds better with minimal drums, most of the time. (My opinion) Leaving space for the others to use sounds best to me. There are those spots that require some extra drum notes, but mainly, I support the others and stay out of the way. I cut loose on endings, only because it sounds better that way. But I make sure that when the rest of the band is ready to hit the last note to cap it off, that I'm right there with them because I don't want them waiting for me to finish my thing. I try and end with them. The less I play the bigger I sound, it's like reaping more benefits from less exertion.I have long been interested in stripping things down so I'm playing the bare minimum number of notes. I have a modest technique so it's partially from necessity but I also like space and clarity in the music and enjoy playing in an accompanist role. So once I know a song I'll often play "perfectly".
If you play a lot of notes you have a greater risk of playing wrong notes but the "little errors" as per the above are much less noticeable.