+3 on this suggestion. Start your own boogie band. You would make a great band leader. People can still dance and with the right song lists, you can have most of your blues components in there and feel fulfilled.I like that idea, Andy. Best of both worlds.
Boogie and RnB and rock'n'roll. Larry, since Charlie's playing jazz now and not too many seem to be filling that niche (apart from tribute bands) ... well, it's dirty work but someone's gotta do it! It'd probably have broader appeal if it's not too purist - piano and organ rather than harp.
If you can't find a group like this, as the guys have said, maybe you can rustle up some of the players you've met in your travels and start up the Transylvanian Boogie Band?
As risky as this can be in this day and age, I really admire such actions. I've been tempted to do the same. But you are lucky he didn't go the va-jay-jay route and get your wife fired or you in legal trouble. Remember that when she is at work, she is not "your girl" anymore, but a member of a functioning team of equals. I had a VERY HARD time accepting this as my (soon to be ex) wife is active duty military.+3 on this suggestion. Start your own boogie band. You would make a great band leader. People can still dance and with the right song lists, you can have most of your blues components in there and feel fulfilled.
I admire your self control regarding his comments to your wife. What an ingrate. I hate fighting and I haven't gotten into one since I was 30, (I'm 48 now) but when I read what Froggy did, I wanted to slap him.
A guy that works with my wife said some awfully mean things to her one day last year. I listened to her over dinner and went to sleep that night with my blood boiling. The next day I went into his office, shut the door, introduced myself, shook his hand and didn't let go of it and then slapped him. not too hard though. All I said to him was, "Be nice to her" and walked out. I never mentioned this to my wife (she would have been furious) and he's been the "sweetest guy, I can't figure it out" according to my wife for the last year.
Sorry this kind of crap has happened to you. You're a nice guy. Don't let this get you down.
Don't get me wrong, I wasn't knocking you... just expressing how I can relate. For the record, you should have slapped him harder...with a glove... and challenged him to a dualHmmmm
I only included that story as an example to show that I can totally relate to and support Larry blasting the guy but not necessarily tell the wife everything that goes down.
I regretted it a little the next day and maybe even still a little now because I don't like conflict and being aggressive towards others. I'm not suggesting it.
I think that you said it best Larry, when you wrote that you're just plain and simply done with him and he doesn't exist to you anymore. That's the best way to handle it.
You're giving him way too much power.Jules, I don't want any animosity from him. If he is tossed from the band and we replace him....he's vindictive and would bad mouth and undercut anything we did. Not worth it, I'm moving on. It was fun while it lasted. Besides, now I'm more available for the A list blues trio band I've been drumming for recently.