I feel the same way.btw. that tama drumset doesn't sound good to me. I can see how that sound might be desirable to some, but i'm more of vintage guy, and I like to actually hear the tone of the drums, that kit is very modern sounding, and you mostly just hear the heads, not alot of body.
You'll love THIS then...
Man, I'd give a toe for that kit!
What I can add to this thread is that people (other musicians, mostly) comment on how good my vintage Ludwig kit sounds all the time. In fact, I played a gig about a month ago where the guitarist (who I'd played with before, years ago) turned around while we were sound-checking and asked why I didn't bring my DWs to this particular gig. He didn't give me a chance to answer and said that the Ludwigs had a sound that gave him goosebumps, they sounded so good--so warm, so full, so woody. They made him want to start playing drums. Er.....um.....wow! Thanks!
I'm starting to dig the sound of my Ludwigs more than my DWs. Sacrilege, I know, since I've stated for years that my DWs have THE sound I am looking for, but I guess times-are-a-changin'. Well, my tastes are, anyways!
As for the original question, I think in most live (miked) situations, it really doesn't matter to the audience. I think that it's up to the drummer to play what they, personally, think sounds/feels/looks good. It's part of what gives them their unique voice. You know how playing on different kits/snares/cymbals influences you to play differently? Yeah, I think it has something to do with that: when we find a kit that has a sound that matches how we want to play...